Recently I attended the screening of an outstanding documentary made by Carolyn Davies, “In the eyes of the Good”. It is set in Nepal and deals with the healing of various factions in the era of post Maoist struggle and the need to heal the many physical and emotional wounds left.

Although I had previously trained in NVC I was deeply touched by the depth of emotion and healing that the Nepalese programme brought to the many, badly affected communities. I was struck by the fact that the very many victims were being HEARD.

Of course as a mediator and conflict coach I have used NVC principles in the course of mediating and coaching but this documentary helped me realise how much more could be done with NVC, what a tool “par excellence” it is and how it could help bring some of our more fragmented communities together.

We are all feeling the fallout from the Brexit vote. Whichever way we voted, we find friends and communities divided and pitted against one another. I wonder if we would all benefit from viewing this film and engaging in a similar type of NVC forum to help people clearly recognise their own basic needs and reconcile with those of “the other”. It can only foster understanding and acceptance as the process draws on bringing out the empathy in each and every one of us.

I strongly encourage anyone interested in mediation, reconciliation and restorative justice to watch the documentary – it can be found on YouTube

Please get in touch with ASM Plus if you think this approach could be of use in your community. There is no need to wait until 2017.